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How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

April 29th, 2009 @ 6:00 am

Categories: Managing Up, Office Strategy, Success

Tags: Elephant, Idea, Professional Development, Career, Stanley Bing

Dear Stanley,

How do I make my boss think my new idea is his idea? That seems to be the only way he will approve an idea.

Creative but Quizzical

Dear Quiz,

You obviously have a subtle sense of senior management that will stand you in good stead throughout your career. Congratulations. A good portion of solving this problem is in just having the insight to ask the question. So you’re halfway home!

Making senior officers believe that an idea is theirs is a key part of managing up, a topic that is dealt with at some length, and with huge amusement value, in my indispensible guide to the subject, Throwing The Elephant: Zen and the Art of Managing Up. Because we’re in a recession and everybody is looking for value, however, I will give you a small peek under the circus tent in this venue.

The essence of all managing up is recognizing the power and weight of the elephant in the room — in this case, your boss, who must feel that everything good in the world, including ideas, flows from him. You don’t get anywhere by pushing an elephant. Or by pulling it. Or by yelling at it. Or by walking away from it in a huff. You can only train the elephant by recognizing your relative size and heft and using it to your advantage. Although very large and heavy, elephants are also fearful of many things, and have an intense need to be fed, watered, and sung to sleep when the day is done. Those who can do all those things become very important to the elephant and indispensable to its existence, thereby ensuring their own.

In this case, let’s look at the problem. Something needs to be done. An idea is called for. No idea is acceptable to the elephant that doesn’t emanate from it. You have several things on your side:

1. Elephants believe all good ideas comes from them;

2. If you tell an elephant, therefore, that the idea did come from him or her, they will be inclined to believe you;

3. Elephants have very poor memories; and

4. Elephants like to be congratulated.

Knowing these four things, a strategy becomes clear: First, present the elephant with a list of ideas that you claim were generated in discussions with the elephant: “Larry, I’ve taken the liberty of jotting down some of the ideas that have come up in our conversations. I hope I captured your thoughts adequately.” Next, allow the elephant to take some time to peruse the list and choose an option. Finally, inform the elephant that the option they have selected — which was based on their own idea, generated in some mythic past discussion — has been adopted and congratulate the elephant on the whole thing. There. It’s done.

Remember also that elephants are top-heavy and pretty easy to tip over. But that’s another story.

Stanley Bing is the bestselling author of Executricks, What Would Machiavelli Do?, Sun Tzu Was a Sissy, 100 Bullshit Jobs...And How to Get Them, and many other books. For more Bing wisdom read his monthly column in Fortune and visit stanleybing.com.



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    oriondesign

    04/30/09 | Report as spam

    Classic!

    Dear Stanley,

    Great piece. I run a marketing communications
    business so I practice the art of client
    management, which is a lot like "managing up."
    Your "throwing elephants" metaphor definitely
    reminds me of some situations I've been in over
    the years!

    I also use a technique I call "feeding them the
    green beans," which has been very effective for
    me. Remember when you were a kid, and mom
    told you to eat your green beans? If you didn't
    want to, mom had two options: (1) send you to
    your room until you WOULD eat them, or (2)
    chop 'em up small and mix them into the mashed
    potatoes. In practice (2) usually seems to work
    a lot better.

    The lesson for me there is, sometimes it's more
    about HOW you present the idea than WHAT the
    idea even is. Take the time to learn the "go-
    buttons" of your leadership, and frame your idea
    using those "go-buttons," and often things will go
    your way!

    Let me know what you think of my technique!
    And by the way, you are a master of book titles.
    I'm definitely going to check out "Sun Tzu Was A
    Sissy."

    -Harley Orion
    Orion Creative Group
    www.orioncreativegroup.com

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    mimperial

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Dear Stanley,

    Thanks for this short insight.
    Concise but very vivid and powerful.
    My boss wont let me into his world if it is my idea.
    This is exactly what I need.
    Thank you sir.

    Michael

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    bhandoko

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Reading your explanation, I've just realized now that my boss has done that theory toward myself, he he he.
    Instead, he made me and other fellows managers as the elephant,..
    Clever Boss I had, indeed

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    Yzaholdings

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    You listed four things, not three as stated. A forgetful
    elephant you are, Stanley Bing happy

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    teedee_india

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Don't they say " Elephantine Memory"? To me that implies that an Elephant has a long memory.
    Your point no. 3 states just the opposite!

    Still a crisp and readable article. Thanks.

    Terence
    New Delhi - India

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    Raju24in

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Dear Stanley ,

    A very insightful article ! But I wonder why it should be so ? After all if the top management remains so egoistic it is unlikely to produce any great ideas in the organization . Maybe this is the reason for many of our troubles !

    Raju
    Haryana India

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    ashishamar

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Wonderful, but not all bosses are elephants. A few of them are are asses too!

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    Anuj singhal

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Really Great Idea. But My elephant has very sharp memory...

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    Q N Q

    05/01/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I liked an idea calling elephant to the Boss. Well, elephant can be scared as easily as any other animal, however very few things can kill an elephant other than large prides of lion.
    Other animals waste time in thinking on its large size. We are human beings, just flash respectful smile on his ideas and ours, it works.
    Good piece Stanley, thanks

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    JVastano

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Wouldn't it be more transparent just to simply be a sycophant and an elephant's ass-kisser?

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    MattB242

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I?m lucky enough never to have encountered this problem, and frankly bewildered that it exists at all. How on earth could anyone achieve a position of senior responsibility if they?re so miserably fragile that they feel threatened by other people?s ideas, and so utterly stupid (or vain) that they would allow themselves to be flattered by facile manipulation techniques?

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    mark.dalton@...

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    This is awful advice. How is reinforcing the negative behavior of a boss a net benefit to anyone? The company does not win, the individual does not win, the only winner is the bosses ego. This kind of mentality led to 30-1 debt to capital ratios at AIG, Bear etc...if you have an idea that is better than your boss and he won't give you credit, go down in the clinches and gain some momentum with his peers. Most likely someone will realize that your idea is worthwhile. If the idea is tremendous build consensus in your organization that you have come up with the next best thing since sliced bread. (Get ready for political warfare with many tribes if you go down this route.) But if you are simply looking to get recognized outside of your department and want someone to see the value you add to the organization take stock of who you find to have a compelling intellect and make a pitch internally and informally to that person and then leave it at that. If your boss gets upset you can always say that you wanted to see what other people thought of your idea since we are sometimes blinded by our circumstance and hence our prejudices. Your job is not to validate your bosses ego--if it is, and you think it is, look for a new gig.

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    PersonnelAdmin

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Remember the "Dilbert Principle."

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    Niteroi

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Dear Sir,
    Your article reminds me of some ?elephant advice? I was given when I came to Brazil to work some 30 years ago. I was amazed at how many ?elephants? there were in so many high places. In the beginning I met them head on with terrible results.
    Then a Brazilian colleague gave me some advice. He asked, ?If you are walking through the park and see an elephant up in a tree. What would you do?? He rejected my suggestions of ?Call the fire brigade or the animal society.?
    He said, ?Do nothing.? ?The elephant is there because Somebody put him there.? ?Leave well alone.?

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    scribbler60

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    There's a thread in some of the responses which, I believe, is based on an incorrect assumption: that is, by making the boss believe it's their idea, somehow you're becoming an a$$-kissing sycophant.

    Nothing could be further from the truth.

    Fact is that the boss KNOWS full well that the idea is yours and not theirs, but by packaging it in a way that you're making it their idea you're proving that you're a "team player" and less interested in taking credit than you are in getting the job done.

    The reality, like it or not, is that playing these ego games and dancing to a tune you'd rather not dance to is simply a factual part of business existence. So the choice is to work within the system to get important things done, or beat your head against a wall trying to change things.

    Choice, as always, is yours.

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    JShackelford

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Everybody deserves to be recognized for their hard work and contributions to the success of the company they work for. If your boss is a pompous, egotistical jerk who won't listen to your suggestions, or consider your ideas good and give credit where credit is due, then I'd "suggest" an anonymous suggestion process. It's not right for any manager at any level to steal idea's, call them their own, and take all the credit!

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    maryecox

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I totally agree with Mark Dalton above, our jobs shouldn't be to feed an elephant's ego. Managers need to encourage innovation. I had a good idea. I had a great idea. But it needed to be sold to senior management. I could never get past my manager. I found others to listen and the idea got some momentum. An improvement project was started and I got busy! Now a few months into it, my manager has informed me that the project, while important, should not be staffed from within our business unit so my job is obsolete. Because it's important, I get 3 months to transition my work (which may end up being documenting it for the future if the intended recipients don't accept the work) but then I am out. Part of a larger reduction in force due to the economy.

    As I read the article, I found myself wishing that I had seen it 6 months ago. I might have sold the idea differently. And I might be around to see the improvements. I think Stanley has imparted wisdom that I will take with me...unfortunately to my next position.

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    ssajee@...

    05/01/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I like MMFisher's position. Thank you.

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    KieshaCopper

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I believe you made a mistake in saying that elephants had short memories, in fact they are know to have long memories. That being said, they are also know to be afraid of mice. Something to think about.

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    Ramallah

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Many thanks for this insightful article, I believe that it's worthy to read and utilise in an environment full of elephants and two legged beasts.

    cheers

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    cbouchard

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I think the naysayers are taking Bing's suggestions way too literally and blowing things out of proportion. It's always a good strategy to get "buy in" on an idea by making someone think that it's their idea or at least in alignment with their thinking, and particularly so with a boss/manager. And those who think ego doesn't play a part in managing others are either deluding themselves or have never been managers. Chill, people.

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    sarahberg

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    There's so much truth in Bing's advice! Like it or not - it is what it is. You can either take the advice and use it to your advantage, getting your ideas put into action - or you could always complain about the boss's ego, cry out to make sure you get credit for your own ideas (thus pampering your own ego) and end up accomplishing nothing. Guess it depends on what it is you're really trying to accomplish...

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    jooofy

    05/02/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    An interesting article I must say! To me, this means we have a lot of insecure bosses out there. The article gives insight into recent challenges at work.

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    aboulfaraj

    05/02/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    The boss must recognizes that people are one of the Company?s most valuable resources. As such the boss is committed to get use of the people starting from recruiting, retaining and motivating the best qualified persons who can effectively contribute to the Company?s goals and objectives.

    An important factor in retaining and motivating employees is creating a work environment between the boss and the subordinates which assist both in reaching their maximum potential through the development of clear performance expectations, identifying critical performance objectives, providing ongoing feedback, training and professional development opportunities and coaching for optimal performance. These leadership actions are shared area of contribution. The unaccepted from both sides will remain unaccepted regardless elephant or a fly as we all have to remember the Chinies say "you can close the door in the face of an elephant but you cannot do same to a fly.

    However, from time to time, even with sound leadership practices, unacceptable performance or behavior can develop and persist and it is one of the goals to minimize dark areas and mitigate to successfully get through.
    Aboulfaraj

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    dontheideaguy

    05/02/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Not bad (and certainly works with a boss who is a selfish glory-hound), but I think my take works better:
    http://www.dontheideaguy.com/mybrainblog/2009/05/bossing-around-your-ideas.html

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    Kikolijaz

    05/04/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Hi Stan,

    great insights. this is how you deal with your boss it is in the real world...

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    jsargent

    05/04/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Excellent! I've been trying for years to convince the boss that a payrise is his idea. wink

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    eliza,garber

    05/04/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    An interesting article coupled with some interesting posts.

    Personally, I would take a slightly different approach. In order to progress within a business (or stay at all during a re-structuring), an individual must be recognised for their contribution. The key is to be your boss's right-hand-man without seeming threatening.

    Rather than convince them your idea is theirs, present it more as a joint effort. I would do as the article says and jot down ideas and present them as having emanated from a past discussion, not mentioning who came up with what. Then when the thing is done and dusted, I'd re-inforce the idea that the two of us worked well as a team. She'll feel good about her managerial abilities and my obvious collaborative attitude won't worry her unduly.

    If I don't think my boss will agree to something, I ask myself several questions:
    -Do I really need to ask her - can I get away with doing it without her or influence another dept. to take it on?
    - What are her objections going to be and how can I work around them. There's almost always a way.
    - If not, maybe it's time for a better idea (or a new boss)

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    Amachi Isienyi

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    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Myself, as a leader, do not appreciate my behind being kissed by any subordinate of mine. That is not part of their job description. However, I would happily take credit for foreseeing the effectiveness of a business strategy that they may come up with to the point of implementing it to success.

    I would NEVER feel comfortable if a direct report credits me with some wonderful business idea that I did not create. I would think less of any employee that believes in climbing the corporate ladder via brown-nosing rather than through his smarts and hardwork.

    Instead, I appreciate and vehemently ecourage everyone to present their ideas as theirs.

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    Stanley Bing

    05/05/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    Thanks for your comments, everybody! I particularly enjoyed getting an elephant clarification from India!

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    Stanley Bing

    05/05/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    I would like to offer one comment to JVastano. You obviously have a very bad attitude toward ass-kissing, my friend. Just to call it that shows you've got your head on sideways. Sucking up, kissing up, brown-nosing, tuft-hunting... all of these are names for an essential and time-honored part of the Managing Up skill set. Those who don't know how to delicately and artfully make the boss feel good are just playing a stupid game that they will never win. Of course, you can't be greasy about it, but since when do you define an art by its worst practitioners?

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    ramogotsi

    05/07/09 | Report as spam

    RE: How Do I Get My Boss to Approve My Idea?

    A good management principle to learn early on in a career is situational management style.

    Not all managers are ELEPHANTS, however, there are lots of these gracefully large mammals in high positions. And the truth is, most of them are influential in determing the success or failure of a project or even the company itself. They are unfortunately also important in assisting those lower than themselves in things like career path/development.

    I think the article is about reading the situation and choosing the best possible way of dealing with a challenge.

    By the way, I banged my head against the wall trying to convince my boss and his superiors that I am the one who came with THE IDEA. That left me dejected, de-motivated and very much well....

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