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Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

May 12th, 2008 @ 4:10 am

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Categories: General, Motivation, Sales Skills, Watercooler

Tags: Job, Sales Professional, Sales Strategy, Recruitment & Selection, Sales Force Management, Sales, Human Resources, Workforce Management, Geoffrey James

Sad about Sales“I hate being in Sales,” a woman recently confessed to me. Even so, she’s pretty successful, and was recently netting $40,000 a month in commissions. But here she was, telling me that she hated the very job that she was so good at.

This surprised me, because I like to pretend that most sales professionals enjoy their jobs. I’m pretty certain (but can’t prove) that the ones who do enjoy it are generally more successful. And most sales professional seem pretty upbeat, at least on the surface.

Even so, I’m well aware that plenty of people don’t like their jobs. I was just always kinda assumed that sales professionals were immune to the typical work-a-day malaise.

“I hate treating everyone as a potential customer,” she continued, “I hate pretending I like people with whom I have little or nothing in common. I hate cold-calling and I hate following up.”

Hoping to put a more positive spin on the conversation, I asked, “Well, then, what do you like about your job?”

She answered without hesitation: “The money, that’s all. I do my job and do it well, but if I could do something else and still make this kind of money, I would.”

I found her viewpoint personally depressing, because she happens to be my sister.

I want my sister to be happier but I don’t know what to tell her. Seriously, I’m at a loss.

Do you secretly hate your job? If so, how do you cope? And if you don’t, what’s your secret?

Can anyone help me out here?

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    United Systems

    05/12/08 | Report as spam

    Oh yeah, I can't stand it!

    I was a network engineer working in New York City at a cushy job in a private office with a great view of Broadway in the financial district only a few years ago... When I decided to strike it out on my own! As a business owner I lover the semi-freedom of coming and going as I please (within reason).

    However, I have found that I am almost literally SICK of working in the world of small bussiness technology where I thought it would be easier to break into. It IS easier, but thats the problem, easier does NOT equal easier money. So not only do hate my "job", but we aren't making any real money.

    Tell your sister to use some of that great money and take some time to REALLY reflect on what she LOVES doing in life. Tell her not to waste another minute doing something that you hate! I finally spoke to someone about an exit strategy and I will be dialing that in more over a 1-2 year period. One problem, I'm not sure what I love doing... sad

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    United Systems

    05/12/08 | Report as spam

    Sorry for the bad grammer/spelling...

    :o

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    Geoffrey James, Sales Machine

    05/12/08 | Report as spam

    Relative Freedom

    Yeah, I know what you mean about freedom to come and go. She has some of that and should appreciate it.

    That's one of the reasons that I enjoy freelancing. I can spend a day playing a computer game if I want, so long as I meet my deadlines.

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    FELDMAN3100@...

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    take control

    Your sister's problem is that she is not in control of her future; her job is. The solution is for her to take control of her future by engineering that future.

    She should make a list of her likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses both professional and personal. Then she should consult with a career counselor to help her identify a career that better fits the future that she wants.

    Last year my neice made $200,000 selling Forensic accounting services as a junior partner candidate. The senior partners sold the company out from under her, and the new owner was not talking partnership. She consulted a career counselor, and determined that she had to go to another market. She moved herself and her kids from Florida to New York to take a totally different accounting position at $140,000!

    She took control of her life the same way you take control of a sale -you do whatever it takes.

    If you don't muster control of your future, you are just daydreaming. Ther is always soemthing that you do not like about a job even if it is your "dream job". The grass is always greener somewhere else. Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose.

    Your sister is upset because she is not in control of her future. As with most successes in life, you need the right attitude.

    First she has to sell herself on a new career; then she has to sell someone else that she is the best candidate for that job.

    Thank You,
    Lee Feldman

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    IDmonica

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    control

    being in control does not make you hapy. but it does make you predictable, so you will become just a predictable consumer.

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    john.lemme@...

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    Trapped

    I think that "I hate my job" is more likely to be "I'm trapped my job". All jobs get boring, and even the things that were fun when you started become boring after a few years. But when you're looking at a choice between 20 more years of the same-old same-old or a massive pay-cut and starting again from the bottom, any job would start to feel like a millstone. And so everything about the job that's slightly unpleasant becomes magnified into hatred.

    And yes, I'm am going through my mid-life crisis right now. happy

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    kmw8

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    Few Don't

    If you listen in on convos around the cafeteria table (or any gathering place) you don't hear a lot of "wow, what a great day - I love it here!"

    I have my own personal opinion on this state of affairs. Even if people might enjoy their job, the way the US runs businesses is so deplorable in most companies I've seen that the fact anyone likes their job is a complete miracle.

    Working 100 weeks is typical if you want to climb, never taking your vacation or calling in sick (even when you truly are!) is also snubbed. Let alone if you are minority of any kind...

    I met a man who truly loved sales - I mean he was the perfect salesman. Not pushy, not sweet, just a great person who connected with people. He left his high paying job because he couldn't get anywhere.

    He was so good at it they wouldn't promote. Now there is a snub!

    Unless you are doing something you are TALENTED in, not SKILLED in, I doubt anyone will find long-term happiness at any single company for long.

    By talent I mean a singer, artist, etc. By skilled - including me -we do what we excel at. But I'm not sure being a business person was my passion at age 5!

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    kmw8

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    edit - 100 hr weeks

    it should be 100 hour weeks - not 100 weeks!

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    Geoffrey James, Sales Machine

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    Coming in when sick

    I worked for one guy who gave me a hard time when I took a week off after an operation to fix a deviated septum. Because there weren't any bandages, he figured I was goldbricking.

    Anyway, a few weeks later one of his toadies took a couple of days off with a bad back. To "prove" he had a bad back, he came to work in his usual 3-piece suit -- but with a truss strapped around the outside of his pants.

    The pitiful idiot wore that thing for an entire day, just to show the boss that he really had been in pain. As a postscript, both the jackass boss and the pitiful toady are now highly placed executives in other firms.

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    IDmonica

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    there is a choice, there is a chance

    Please tell you sister that she has the chance to do the same for 30 years, probably. and to earn a lot of money.
    She does'n like the job because she pretends to be someone elese. If she will show her true feelings she will have better relationships, hier sales, bigger income.
    Or, she might take a week off, think what she likes and color her life. Find out what she likes, what is she talented for. And she can start a new life.

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    kylawiebe

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    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    I echo what your sister said about what she doesn't like about sales. Fortunatley though I enjoy other things about my job, the people I work with, the feeling of satisfaction when I have a customer that I have been able to provide with the best service and I know that they are happy, the problem solving element. I come from a customer service background and when the rest gets to me, I try to focus on that.

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    Gary Ares / @...

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    Finally following my passion in life, and loving every minute. I was in technology for over 30 years and did it to make a living. Now I don't make any money, but love my life...go figure.

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    dougwelsh

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    i understand this situation completely. however, there are ways to re-engineer how and what you focus on while selling. i left a high-paying corporate sales position for exactly the same reason. during my voluntary time off, i worked w/ a faith-based coach who walked me through a series of exercises that helped me discover quite specifically where i brought value and what activities i do that bring me energy. focusing on bringing value and what gives you energy can be applied to how you sell and the focus of your selling.

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    mollylooc

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    Oh that for sure, I definitely hate my job!!! Can't stand it at all!!! Need a way out!!!

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    liddings

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    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    I completely identify with your sister and am in the same boat~Do my job well, and I do not even come close to $40,000/month. If I made that much I would save and open my own business.

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    Geoffrey James, Sales Machine

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    Sadly...

    ...she and her husband pretty much burned through all that money. I think she was trying to patch her dissatisfaction by owning "things."

    When I left my miserable corporate job to go freelance (this was in 1994), I saved six month's income, got 8 weeks severance, and had 5 weeks stored vacation. It was enough, but just barely, to get me started.

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    Telamar

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    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    When I was in a job I didn't like I found that if I focused on the parts I did like, the places I saw, the people I did like in each place, etc then the job became a lot easier to do because my focus was on the things I made the choice to enjoy. Then in my time I studied, gained more qualifications and moved onto now having a job I love.

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    vinayvedsharma

    05/13/08 | Report as spam

    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    Yes I do. But I will not blame anyone else but me for not having guts to move out of the system and do what I want to do like. Most of time we hate to walk in different lane as being in set path makes life cosy enough to take chance for seeking what we really like to do as such. So much so that even if we hate what we are doing still we do not hate it enough to kick it off and start fresh as such.

    So I hate myself for always doing nothing about what I would like to do and keep complaining all the time. Its funny and disgusting.

    Regards

    Vinay

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    Aimee333

    05/14/08 | Report as spam

    Surely you Jest!

    I'm one of those people who had a job I loved and still hated my job because of the people I had to work with. I was successful, but couldn't stand walking in the door in the morning!I finally quit!
    Today, I'm doing essentially the same thing, with a much smaller company. I can finally say- I love my job!
    I say "surely you jest" because I believe we ALL secretly hate some part of our job. But that's why it's a job. Otherwise we all would be doing exactly what we wanted in life...and work would no longer feel like a job. Tell your sister to re-evaluate what makes her happy. Start stashing cash so she can DO what she loves!

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    nikibert

    05/14/08 | Report as spam

    KNOW WHAT IS IMPORTANT...

    There is nothing wrong with staying in a job you hate for the money. Think of it as just that a job - not your life or your purpose. If it becomes burdensome for your health or personal values, then you have to move on regardless and live a simpler life - money isn't everything. I left my job - I loved my JOB - but hated all the peripherals - politics, power struggles, gossip, backstabbing, mistrust you name it. The money or the prestige just was not enough to compensate for the other torments. One has to decide what is important and perhaps find joy in other things - friends, family or helping the needy. Money will never give you the profound satisfaction these other things do.

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    jtenbrink

    05/14/08 | Report as spam

    RE: Do You Secretly Hate Your Job?

    What exactly is your sister selling if I may ask?

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    Geoffrey James, Sales Machine

    05/14/08 | Report as spam

    Why not.

    She was an early entrant in a major MLM, something she's managed to do twice.

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    jtenbrink

    05/15/08 | Report as spam

    The vehicle makes all the difference

    Ahh, MLM sales. Quite a different animal and I can totally relate to her dissatisfaction. In that kind of role, you hunt people down as prey vying for the glamour, glitz, and materialism these companies often portray. I'm assuming she is one of their "heavy hitters"... basically they are nothing more than the company trophy in order to excite newbies into the biz. However, she should see this as a HUGE blessing... a golden ticket to stashing away buckoo bucks, later quit, and find something she really enjoys. With an exit strategy in mind, her attitude will change from a stick-in-the-mud to one of optimism and excitement.

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